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The perks of being unwell

I believe I already wrote about it but it still amazes me so here I come again.

I’ve had an amazing week last week when my dad came to visit. We used to be like dogs and cats and always (lovingly) arguing with each other. It got to the point where I became tired of it. I just wanted something else and nothing I could tell my dad seemed to change anything. Most probably because I kept telling him all the wrong things he was doing and how I was so unlike him.

Recently we shifted and changed that story.

I keep being annoyed at him and telling him when he’s not doing something right #virgomode but I don’t cling onto it. And it changes everything. I can laugh at my overcontrolling self. I can laugh when he is mocking me. He sees when I am right, and because a father/daugther love can’t be broken he keeps accepting my ever growing changing self and I accept that he is not indeed the perfect dad I wanted him to be and it’s perfectly fine as it is.

That being said, I managed to catch a cold when he was visiting and I did my best to take care of myself and rest to avoid being too sick so I guess I just avoided the worst.

I shared on Instagram in my stories about my love/hate relationship with sickness. I love it because it helps me ground myself , rest, and focus on what’s really important. I hate it because it doesn’t feel good at all, I have to slow down way too much and everything becomes unbearable.

Talking about mild sickness here like a cold, sore throat etc..

In those moment, I always reach a point where I get to decide whether or not my life is good.

And every time. Every single time. I always finally decide that Yes, my life is indeed very good.

It’s a shame I have to wait to be sick to feel this truth so intensively. I can feel it every other day too, but the truth of it when I am unwell is different, it makes me feel different. I just see the world with different (very tired?) eyes.

Both stories to say that indeed feeling good, being happy, having a good life is a choice we make every second.

It’s not always easy and sometimes the only thing that feels like feeling good is dwelling on things forever and that’s ok.

There will be a time when you feel like you’re ready to get over it.

The more you become aware of those sensations and feelings. The more you practice consciously choosing. The more you will be able to choose different sooner.

That’s it.

Choose now, or later, it’s all good.

The story is yours.

Speak soon,

Floriane x

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Balance in everything

Morning thoughts:

The hardest thing isn’t to keep your balance. The hardest thing is to know where your balance is.

And to find out you have to try.

You may know the theory and heard of all made recipes before but you won’t know until you try it.

You have to try and fail.

Try, feel it and fail.

Try, know where to look at and fail.

Try and just fail again.

Try and keep your balance for longer.

Try again.

Lose it and find it again. Keep it and then loose it.

Losing your balance isn’t a shame.

It’s actually part of balancing.

The only thing that makes a difference is that when you’re really good at being balanced, you don’t let yourself lose your balance for too long, you are able to catch yourself in time and get back to it instantly.

So, keep seeking for your balance. Keep trying. And know that with every fail you come a little closer to your goal.

You will get to know your unbalance so well so you can choose not to get there.

Balance in everything <3

Speak soon,

Floriane x

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How do we make fear fit into our lives?

Well first of all, and I’m sure you already know it, balance is everything.

Maybe more than balance, I’d say harmony is required.

From Marie Kondo sparkling joy with her tidying techniques to Elisabeth Gilbert inspiring us to be true to ourselves through her books the message is the same: know yourself, know what works for you and relentlessly recentre yourself.

Know thyself – Socrates

But to get back to our specific topic: FEAR

Fear is essential to our survival.

Fear gives us energy.

Fear keeps us alive.

Fear is just the opposite of love.

What you fear is what you can work on, from childhood trauma to phobias counsellors and therapists do wonders.

How you acknowledge your fear and how you reparent yourself is also what you can work on, therapists and coaches are great teachers.

How you choose relentlessly to see the positive outcome, to learn from your experience and to trust yourself is how you start creating a life that suits you.

Like all emotions fear is an indicator, being able to recognize and analyse it is what makes you a great strongly centred human being.

As Michelle Obama said ‘I don’t want to live in a world based on fear’. Don’t let fear lead your life, it is just a tool, nothing more.

Use all the relaxations techniques that you know of, learn more about them if needed to go back to what you know is true:

You’ve got this.

It’s not finished until you remembered that. Every day. You can do it.

Floriane x